Pastor Susan Munene has warned couples who come together while already having children to steer clear of deceiving each other that their kids are born again when, in reality, they’re battling hidden drug-related addictions.
Speaking during an interview with a local TV station on the night of Saturday, April 5, 2025, Sue told parents that this is often the breeding ground of marital toxicity, as the other partner will eventually turn hostile once they discover the children had been sugar-coated to seem like angels.
“After that, let’s talk about our children. The second-born is deep into drugs, and the third is entangled in wild living. Then we ask, how do we support each other? So he doesn’t walk in on the kids drinking and start asking why, yet you had sworn they were born again. And him, the same.”
Sue, who shot to fame for her viral ‘twa twa’ catchphrase, insisted that couples who have previously gone through divorce and are seeking fulfilment in a new marriage must embrace full disclosure—including openly discussing the reasons behind their past breakups.
According to her, no one dreams of divorce or losing a spouse, but coming to terms with such painful realities plays a key role in whether one will find peace and fulfilment in a future relationship.
“Number one is to accept that something happened. No one walks down the aisle hoping for divorce. No one marries expecting their spouse to die. That was beyond your expectations. When it happens, don’t live in denial. Surround yourself with people who can speak life into you.”
To support this, she even advised couples to seek out professional help—like therapy—to make peace with past heartbreaks before walking into new unions, adding that unhealed wounds are another breeding ground for toxic relationships.
“Sit down afterwards and acknowledge that we both have a past. Look for a therapist. Don’t try to counsel each other. Therapy doesn’t mean you’re crazy. Let someone guide you through the steps, then put those lessons into practice. You must walk in unity. Admit your past.”
Blending kids
While at it, Sue shared at length how couples entering second marriages should not only blend with each other but also help their children—who are meeting for the first time—bond and unite like one family.
She explained that openly discussing each child’s unique challenges builds trust and helps the new partner step in supportively and with understanding.
Sue warned that one of the most harmful mistakes in such situations is trying to outshine a child’s biological parent to impress the new partner—for instance, going over the top with gifts or gestures to win favour.
She gave the example of a remarried father who says, “If your biological dad took you to Mombasa for a holiday, I’ll take you to Dubai,” all in a bid to win the mother’s heart, saying that only creates a toxic, competitive environment.
“If you have seven children, list their issues one by one. No secrets. Full transparency. He’s coming in as a father and needs to understand these children well. Don’t try to outdo their biological dad. Bring your own principles. If their dad takes them to Mombasa, don’t say you’ll take them to Dubai. If you’re still wounded, you’ll bring toxicity. You won’t be judged. Say it plainly. There must be total honesty—then I can help you figure out how to move forward…”
The celebrated evangelist, known for guiding couples on blending families, reminded them that adjusting to new family dynamics takes time—and their children may not blend seamlessly at first—urging couples to stay patient and seek support.
“It’s not a walk in the park. We must bring the kids together and help them bond. Sometimes they clash. Bring in a neutral party if necessary. Kids can wreck your relationship even if you think things are working out.”
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